Tips from a Newlywed

Tips from a newlywed might seem kinda counter-intuitive, like taking medical advice from a teenage doctor, but there are some things you may have forgotten after several years of marriage. So, think of it like a reminder from your younger self. After all, there is no reason that you can't occasionally do some of the things you did when you first got married.

Compliments

While some couples never did much of this even when dating, compliments are one of the least expensive but most memorable and lasting gifts you can give your spouse regardless of how long you've been married. A person can live for days on the memory of a good compliment (I know I can:). Compliments don't have to be corny or insincere. Just take a moment to think about your spouse and something you appreciate about them and go from there. The timing of a compliment is important too. Don't give one to get out of trouble or after an argument. Give compliments when things are going well and give them regularly. Don't fall into the trap that your spouse already knows how you feel and what you think of them. It doesn't matter, compliments will make them feel better about themselves and the relationship.

Touch

Now this one should be a no-brainer, but it's amazing how many couples rarely touch each other. There's a problem when your life is so busy and chaotic that you don't have time to give the person you've promised to share your life with forever a tight 30 second squeeze. I won't go into the physical and mental health benefits of touch, but needless to say, they are great. Don't fall for the "I'm just not the affectionate type," line that a lot of people throw out there. If this is you, perhaps you should have remained single. Great relationships thrive on intimacy and touch is a form of physical intimacy without which your relationship will suffer.

Dates

Surprisingly this one is something that even newlyweds can forget to do. It's so nice to cuddle up at home in front of the television that you forget to go out together, even if it's for a leisurely stroll. The right date can open up the lines of communication. People forget to actually talk to each other when they're in the comfort of their own homes watching television or eating their meals at separate times. Going out for dinner with your spouse is a great time to talk about what matters to each of you as a couple and individually. Dates don't have to be expensive or become a chore. Go to a museum and discuss art, visit a park and have an impromptu picnic. If you make an effort in your marriage, the results will surpass the work you put in.

Sex

Okay, now for the big kahuna. It's amazing how many married couples aren't having sex. Barring medical issues (which should be checked out) married people should have sex. I know that you're as comfortable together as two old shoes or like brother and sister, but you're not. No one gets married for their relationship to turn into a brother and sister relationship. Sex is something God gave married couples to enjoy with each other and provide the greatest physical intimacy that two people can enjoy on earth. Your spouse comes first, so don't give them leftovers. Save some energy to enjoy a regular sex life with them after your day is done. So, while these tips are from a newlywed, they definitely are not new. But,  they are important to keep you happily wed no matter what stage of marriage you're in.